Observations & meditations on modern life
What you already know
For me, therapy is a process of self discovery. It’s a journey of being able to understand how you process different feelings and emotions. It’s a process of engaging with the ups and downs of life that are both inevitable and important to go through. Most importantly, it’s about being able to understand that we are made up of different characters that each have a voice that must be listened to. Think about it, you filter your persona based on your surroundings and that’s totally necessary, but what happens when your inner child doesn’t cry about something that hurt? What happens when your adult self doesn’t take some time off work every once in a while? What happens when you don’t listen to that little voice inside your head that’s reminding you to engage with the person sitting opposite you?
Sometimes we’re led to believe that therapists have some sort of knowledge that the client needs to obtain in order to “get better”. There are a lot of people who rely on “my therapist said…” and whilst I love to be the person to which some people turn for support, that’s never been my approach to these things. Why? Because I believe that every individual is actually capable of reaching their potential without everlasting dependence on somebody else. Sure, everyone hits a bump in the road sometimes, and it’s perfectly natural to need some guidance and assistance. However, if you see me, you’re always the one in control, and it’s never a case of churning out a rehearsed set of instructions for different ‘conditions’ or ‘symptoms’.
We see the world through lenses: lenses coloured by our mood that day, something that happened that week, something that you’re looking forward to, something that is looming overhead. It is completely natural and expected that events and experiences colour the way in which we see life as we move forward. We have this amazing ability to adapt the way we see things; those lenses are interchangeable and fluid as we apply the appropriate lenses to the appropriate situations. However, what happens when a lens gets stuck? What happens if we had an argument this morning, and it affected us for the rest of the day? What happens when something frightens you and you don’t give it due acknowledgement or healing time? That’s when we find ourselves having disproportionate reactions to the world around us because there’s a little character in us trying to get our attention. Once you can acknowledge and give validity to those inner characters, they calm down, and the lenses become less rigid and the anger from that argument doesn’t have to then carry over to the afternoon’s meeting with your boss.
I’m here to teach you to listen to those little voices that you have inside you. I’m always listening to the parts of you that are looking for attention, and my goal is to help you hear those parts of yourself too, because once you can engage with yourself on the inside, the world on the outside becomes a completely different game.