Observations & meditations on modern life

Let’s talk about intention

Let’s talk about I N T E N T I O N.

My main question when it comes to a misunderstanding of intention is WHY there was that misunderstanding. How did something come across in a way that gave it a different meaning? We communicate on many different layers, all the time, what is it about how someone said something that made it change? Where in the chain of thought -> spoken statement -> hearing -> understanding did the meaning change?

I don’t believe things are misunderstood for no reason. I also don’t believe that we accidentally warp the meaning of our words. What I think happens is that we subconsciously communicate different layers of meaning every time we speak and this comes across in our choice of words, choice of examples to use, body language etc. All of those different layers are read by other people, who then latch onto the bits that resonate with their own circumstances, state of mind, priorities, vulnerabilities and so on and so forth.

As with most things, I can relate today’s post to my understanding of my dog… so here is a little example of my thoughts on today’s post in practise:

When I train my dog, she is reading my intention, not my command. The reason I’m so sure of this is that if my intention changes, so does her attitude. If my intention is to “get a good pic”, asking her for even a basic command becomes difficult. She fidgets, moves about, doesn’t hold the position, and quite frankly, the whole endeavour becomes a total pain.

However, change my intention, and suddenly she’s a different dog. When my intention is to engage with her, have fun and strengthen our bond, her responsiveness dramatically changes. She thrives off that connection, and rewards me with exactly what I’m giving her.

How can I expect my dog to listen to me and engage with me if I don’t do the same for her? Similarly, how can I expect my outside world to engage with me if my intention isn’t to engage with it?

Again, what it comes down to is that we don’t exist as individuals. We exist in connectivity. How we behave directly impacts the world outside of us just as much as it impacts the world inside of us. If we broaden the spectrum of our intent, the rigidity in conversation disappears. If my intention is to “be compassionate” or to “connect”, it allows my mind and my body to find flexibility in my ability to communicate on every level, and that’s when we fall into effortless conversation with people we love. It’s because there is no intention there other than to enjoy ourselves and through that joy, we get our desired end result.

Moral of the story is that our actions can remain the same, but our intention comes across regardless. We can appear to be a certain way with words, but if we don’t truly believe what we’re saying, then the whole saga is pointless from the outset. Choose what you want to believe and then believe in yourself, it really is as simple as that.

To love your work is to be successful; to love your partner is to flourish in a relationship; to love the world is to cultivate a better world in which to live. What we really, truly believe tends to come to the surface and does affect us. Decide what that inner intent is and you will see the world in a completely different light.

Posted on Friday, January 3, 2020
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